In our journey through life, we’ve all engaged in discussions about people, and often, quite extensively. Early on, advice echoed to me, urging moderation. To preserve a piece of myself, avoiding the pursuit of those who don’t reciprocate. The wisdom shared was clear: whoever chooses to remain, will, and there’s no need to exhaust oneself for those who don’t value the effort.
“Keep those who matter close, within your grasp. You can’t control the rest. Ultimately, what purpose do they serve? You don’t need them in your life.” These phrases have lingered in my mind since my earliest memories.
Contemplating how contentment can arise with just a few individuals in our orbit led to reflections. Let me clarify: each person fulfills a distinct need. As complex beings with diverse needs, we require a variety of connections hypothetically. Yet, practically, a few authentic connections are all you need.
The confirmation of this truth likely required only a handful of moments, both pleasant and unpleasant. Those I’ve chosen to keep close were selected with strict criteria—perhaps unfairly for many. People who comprehend me through my eyes or voice, who finish my sentences, expressing what I intend to say before I do.
Individuals who embrace me for who I am, acknowledging the goodness within, my generosity, love, and sincere smiles, but above all, accepting my imperfections. Those who tolerate my grievances, navigate my insecurities, tears, and drama. People who endure my quirks, standing firm when they witness me in an angry state without apparent reason.
People who provide honest feedback, unfiltered truths that may sting but ultimately contribute to personal growth. Friends aren’t there to sugarcoat reality; they exist to aid in becoming a better person, each in their own way. If the people around you don’t contribute to your evolution, propelling you forward, what purpose do they serve in your life? Why insist on connections leading to dead ends?
Discovering such genuine and true individuals highlights the scarcity of those who don’t meet these criteria. Recognizing there’s no reason to chase those who confine you into their own world becomes apparent. After all, what benefit is there in pursuing others without gaining anything in return? As self-centered as it may sound, seeking something unattainable is psychologically damaging.
Hence, the truth remains: not everyone can offer what you seek. Cherish the few and good, my friends. Cherish the few and good!
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